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A Deeper Dive Into the Day I Broke the iPad
Today I’m going to take you on a deep dive into the day I broke this iPad. This is a really difficult story for me to share. This is my second “D-day” (Disclosure/Discovery day, the day you find out about your spouse’s infidelities or other sexual sin). My first D-day was more of a disclosure…
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Every Time You Watch
Here’s a poem I wrote on July 27, 2018: When you feel an urge—A knife to my throat When you reach for your phone—A slit through my neck When you type in your search—A slap on my face When you browse through the options—A punch to the ground When you click on your choice—A kick…
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Ok, I’m ready for your comments!
I understand so intimately how important community is for betrayed spouses. For that reason, I’m welcoming your comments! I also know that in betrayal trauma recovery, it’s just as important to set boundaries. So here’s the boundaries I’m setting around comments. Please review and abide by these guidelines before leaving comments: These guidelines, along with…
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Feel all the things. It’s okay.
Before writing a new blog post, I always ask myself, “How can I encourage a betrayed spouse today?” I know you guys are out there somewhere, suffering, alone, in silence and darkness and confusion, whether you’re reading these posts or not. But just the possibility that somebody, anybody, even one person, is reading these posts,…
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100 Things I Need You to Know
Aaaand here’s list #2. This one really captures the emotional rollercoaster I was on. My thoughts were just all over the place. If you missed list #1, it’s right here. 100 things I need you (my husband) to know
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100 Things Your Porn Use Says to Me
I started this list and the one in the following post in the summer of 2022, when I was in the thick of betrayal grief, and it was one of the few ways I could actually communicate how painful it was to my husband. I shared both of these with him. List #2 is here….
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“Was my Marriage All a Lie?”
I’m sure every single betrayed spouse has wondered this. I know I have. I’m sure you have too. The question becomes more devastating the longer you’ve been married. The longer you’ve been married, the more likely you are to wonder how many years of your life you’ve wasted on this unfaithful person and this marriage….
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An Ode to Grief
Grief is my constant companion—She never leaves my side.She wakes me up in the morning,And puts me to sleep every night.She is a grey cloud above my head,With a quiet, gentle rain —She slowly takes my umbrella and closes it,So I feel her raindrops on my face.We then sit together side by side,On a park…
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Dear Betrayed Spouse: an Open Letter
Dear Betrayed spouse, I am so sorry. What you’ve been through is absolutely horrible. You’ve been wronged on the deepest level possible. You didn’t ask for it. You don’t deserve it. It’s not your fault. But it has torn your life apart nonetheless. It’s such a shitty feeling, being cheated on. And even that doesn’t…
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A Complete Timeline of My Story (so far)
This is a living document. It will be updated as time passes and my story continues.