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The Boundaries I Set
Part of my recovery work included setting boundaries with my husband. At first, the idea of boundaries seemed so foreign to me. No matter how many times it was explained to me, I was still like, “What are boundaries, how do I set them, and what kind of boundaries do I set?” Eventually it clicked….
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The Aspen Tree
I submitted this poem in a poetry contest recently. Unfortunately, it didn’t win the contest, but I’m still proud of it nonetheless. I’ve always loved the way Aspen trees turn golden yellow and have eyes on their trunks that spy on you. And the way their leaves are shaped cause them to wave at you…
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My Problems with “Just Have More Sex”
If you’ve dealt with betrayal trauma caused by infidelity of any sort in your marriage, you may have felt like you have to keep having sex to keep your spouse faithful. Well-known pastors or even well-meaning people in your life may have even said so. Maybe you’ve even told yourself that. You might have heard…
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Book Review: Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs
Ok, I don’t think this one-book-review-a-month goal is going to work out. This one took weeks of reading, writing, processing, and taking notes. But I finally condensed them all into my personal take on Love & Respect! I have heard of Love & Respect a few times here and there growing up, but I didn’t…
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Bleeding Hearts
My Father, find your betrayed childrenAnd hear their silent suffering!They wander the earth with bleeding hearts.Their adulterers cast them aside like rubbishAnd they whore after what’s not theirs.The wives of their youthwalk aimlessly in lonely deserts,And rest in weary caves,Their hearts drip blood like breadcrumbs.Craftily the enemy follows the red trailTo find their hiding places.He…
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100 Things I Want to Say to Betrayed Spouses
As you might have already noticed, I enjoy challenging myself to find 100 things to say about a particular topic. But at time of this posting, this list is incomplete. I was originally planning to post this when I finally reach 100, but I’m posting it now with the hope that at least someone out…
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The Grass Blade’s Tale
The Grass Blade’s TaleWhile walking over the snow at sunset,I hear small voices at my feet:”Bend down here, and lend us thine ear,For we have a tale to tell.“In winter, we’re coated with morning frost,Then the snow will try to freeze us.Yet under the snow, we patiently waitFor the springtime sun to warm us.”In the…
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Book Review: The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Lindenbach, and Joanna Sawatsky
So here’s my first book review! I knew I always wanted to do book reviews on this blog because I love to read and I’m always looking for great resources that will benefit betrayed spouses in some way, shape, or form. My goal is to write at least one book review a month. We’ll see…
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A Deeper Dive Into the Day I Broke the iPad
Today I’m going to take you on a deep dive into the day I broke this iPad. This is a really difficult story for me to share. This is my second “D-day” (Disclosure/Discovery day, the day you find out about your spouse’s infidelities or other sexual sin). My first D-day was more of a disclosure…
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Every Time You Watch
Here’s a poem I wrote on July 27, 2018: When you feel an urge—A knife to my throat When you reach for your phone—A slit through my neck When you type in your search—A slap on my face When you browse through the options—A punch to the ground When you click on your choice—A kick…