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Book Review: The Death of Porn by Ray Ortlund
I unexpectedly discovered this short-and-sweet book by reading a review on it that Tim Challies wrote about on his blog. (you can find Challies’ review on this book here) At first glance, the title really caught my eye: The Death of Porn. Oh, what I would give to actually see that happen in my lifetime!…
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Book Review: For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn
Ok, here’s the second book critiqued by The Great Sex Rescue that I’m reviewing! I actually read some of this book with my husband, because I was genuinely interested in getting his take on it. There’s a version of this book published in 2004, and there’s a revised, updated edition published in 2013. I read…
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Porn Use is the Same Thing as Cheating
Unfortunately, many people seem to think (even my own Christian brethren!) that committing adultery and pornography use are two completely different things. I vehemently disagree with this line of thinking. Nevertheless, I will point out some awfully striking similarities between porn use and real-life affairs: Porn use and infidelity produces the same effects on relationships….
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I Can’t Fight
Does God see my anguish?Does God see my pain?And the burden I bearThat drives me insane?Does He ever see meWhen I cry in my bed?Does He see my broken spirit,Or the tears that I shed?This fight I’ve been going throughIs taking its toll.All the life and the joyBeing sucked from my soul.So that now I…
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Betrayal Trauma & Suicide: A Study
I recently came across a study published only last year that studied betrayed spouses and how they are affected by their partner’s compulsive sexual behaviors. I’ll put the citation and a link to the article below this post. It’s a long study, but here’s a short summary: The researchers who conducted this study interviewed a…
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If Your Eye Causes You to Sin
If your hand or foot causes you to sin,chop them off and cast them away,for it is better to enter life missing body partsThen to enter hell with all of them. (Matthew 18:8)If your eye causes you to sin,gouge it out and throw it away,for it is better to live life with one eyethan to…
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Dear Past Self
This is a letter I wrote to my past self, unedited, taken straight from one of my journals. While I wrote this, I felt a huge amount of regret for not only how my husband’s porn use hurt my marriage, but regret over getting married period. Written roughly around January 2023, about six months after…
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Rethinking Complementarianism: How My Views Are (Currently) Evolving
Last week, I wrote about what submission looks like after betrayal. So far, I’ve gotten good feedback on it, but now there’s one part I wrote in it that has been eating at me since I posted it: “Our husbands are sinful, imperfect people who have been called by God to lead us in our…
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What Does Submission Look Like After Betrayal?
“Wives, submit to your husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, His body, and is Himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands” (Ephesians 5:22-24) “Likewise, wives,…
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“Why Do I Need Help? He’s the One Who Caused the Problem!” And Why I Chose Recovery Anyway
“Why do I need to get help? He’s the one who made this mess!” Fair question. I’ve heard it asked many times, by others and by me. It’s natural to wonder that, especially if you’re rightly being told it’s not your fault, you didn’t cause it, and you can’t fix it. It’s not fair to…